THE DATING GAME
Film poster for "The Dating Game."
Phone screen with a man and dogs.
THE DATING GAME
Film poster for "The Dating Game."
Phone screen with a man and dogs.
In a country where eligible men outnumber women by 30 million, three perpetual bachelors join an intensive seven-day dating camp led by one of China’s most sought-after dating coaches in a last-ditch effort to find a girl, and love

THE DATING GAME

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WORLD CINEMA DOCUMENTARY COMPETITION - Sundance Film Festival | BEST INTERNATIONAL DIRECTOR and BEST INTERNATIONAL FEATURE - DocEdge Festival NOMINEE, GRAND JURY PRIZE FOR WORLD CINEMA DOCUMENTARY - Sundance Film Festival | "Timely... tackles China's gender divide and romance in digital age" - Variety

GenderChina One Child PolicyEconomy Equality • Social Injustice in Dating


Date of Completion: 2025 | Run Time: 88 minutes | Language: Chinese with English subtitles | Captions: Yes | Includes: Transcript | Director & Producer: Violet Du Feng Producers: Joanna Natasegara, James Costa & Mette Cheng Munthe-Kaas | Editor: John Farbrother | Director of Photography: Wei Gao

Set in China, where eligible men outnumber women by over 30 million, THE DATING GAME is the story of Zhou, Li, and Wu, three bachelors embarking on a seven-day dating camp, led by Hao, one of China’s most sought-after dating coaches. In their last-ditch effort to find love, the bachelors chuckle and bond as Hao makes them over, altering how they look and act online—and in real life. It’s all part of Hao’s signature “strategic deception,” a series of techniques designed to, purportedly, make humans connect. Hao’s credentials? Hao successfully wooed Wen, a stylish, educated city-girl — a real catch who is now his wife.

As our three bachelors stumble through the camp’s awkward challenges, they try to make sense of their authentic and constructed selves, and find the self-confidence they need to land that date.

THE DATING GAME is, on the surface, a whimsical romp through courtship in the digital age, but it also reveals the social challenges that leave us questioning how we seek human connection.

Los Angeles Times | Vanessa Franko, Amy Nicholson, Mark Olsen and Joshua Rothkopf
"An empathetic universe of insecurity, flirtation, and, hopefully, LOVE."


BBC | Helen Bushby
"a journey of SELF-DISCOVERY for all"

Variety | Naman Ramachandran
"While intimately focused on China’s unique social dynamics, the documentary resonates globally through its examination of modern romance."

Indiewire | David Ehrlich
"...drills into the relationship between the uniquely modern emphasis on performative identity and the indivisibly honest need for human connection."

Cineuropa | Davide Abbatescianni
"Technically polished, with excellent pacing and crisp cinematography by Wei Gao, the film successfully balances observational comedy with deeper sociological reflection. The result is an engaging and accessible documentary that resonates beyond its immediate cultural context, offering a universally relatable exploration of modern dating anxieties. As dating increasingly becomes a performative act, with AI companions and self-improvement regimens replacing organic interactions, The Dating Game serves as both a mirror and a cautionary tale."

MovieMaker Magazine | Tim Molloy
"The Dating Game is fascinating on many levels. There’s inherent, universal awkwardness and tension in dating, and in this case the stakes are incredibly high: The film uses the dating crisis to explain how China’s one-child policy led to its falling birthrate."

Screen Daily | Allan Hunter
"An insightful, appealing film touches movingly on the human need for connection."

The Utah Review | Les Roka
"Entertaining, stylish and snappy in the best possible blend, The Dating Game gives viewers an engrossing, well-informed and wisely balanced look into contemporary China society."

Vulture | Bilge Ebiri
"In an openly phony world, who cares about being genuine? The Dating Game captures that idea in deceptively chilling fashion."

From students at Rowan University:

1) The Dating Game is more than just a film about dating. It is about identity, honesty, and the need for human connection. Violet Du Feng does a great job of showing the emotional side of these men and helping the audience understand their challenges without judging them. The film is powerful because it feels real and personal. It shows that the desire for love and acceptance is something everyone can relate to, no matter where they live.
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2) The Dating Game is an incredible documentary that tells us the story of what many men go through in the dating world. The research done gives the reasons why dating is difficult, the communication done made it safe for the men to tell their story and helped give a good story to follow, and the aesthetics done make you remember the story and the documentary as a whole. The story was relatable and needed so that we as people may grow to understand each other more.
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3) The Dating Game is a superb character-driven documentary with moments of humor and heartbreak, told in a fresh mix of styles.
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4) This was a very strong and thought provoking film, especially as a cultural piece. I am much more educated on, and empathetic towards the social situation in China as a result of watching it…The environment and culture being different from other parts of the world, particularly the west, is on full display. But it doesn't take long for those surface level things to fade into the background, and the humanity of the characters to be brought into focus.
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5) For me, the film reinforced the power of documentary storytelling to reveal not just what people do, but why they do it.

The Bay Area School of San Francisco | Alina Wang
"THE DATING GAME reshaped how I think about the path ahead. It reminded me that ambition shouldn't come at the cost of authenticity."

AWARDS
Best International Director | DocEdge Festival
Best International FeatureDocEdge Festival
Nominee, Grand Jury Prize for World Cinema Documentary | Sundance Film Festival
Nominee, Knight Documentary Achievement Award | Miami Film Festival
Nominee, Documentary Feature | San Francisco Film Festival
Nominee, Best Documentary | Minneapolis St. Paul Film Festival
Nominee, Youth Jury Award | Sheffield DocFest
Official Selection | Hot Springs Documentary Film Festival

FESTIVALS
World Cinema Documentary Competition - Sundance Film Festival
CHP: DOX
Sundance Film Festival: CDMX, Mexico City
Nantucket Film Festival
Biografilm Festival
Beldocs
HotDocs
True/False Film Fest
Missouri Film Festival
Thessaloniki Film Festival
Human Documentary Film Festival
Kosmorama Film Festival
Zurich Film Festival

Director and Producer of HIDDEN LETTERS, Producer of PLEASE REMEMBER ME
Director and Producer of THE DATING GAME

REQUEST A GOOD TALK WITH VIOLET DU FENG

Violet Du Feng is an Emmy and Peabody-winning independent documentarian, a 2025 Guggenheim Fellow, and a 2024 Chicken and Egg Awardee. She is a member of the Academy of Motion Pictures Arts and Sciences and an adjunct professor at the Journalism School of Columbia University. Violet directed and produced THE DATING GAME, which premiered at 2025 Sundance Film Festival World Cinema Competition and won the Best International Director at Doc Edge Film Festival. The film has been widely acclaimed throughout over 20 film festivals around the world. She directed and produced the 2023 Oscar Shortlisted, Peabody and Emmy nominated HIDDEN LETTERS which premiered in competition at the 2022 Tribeca Film Festival, followed by twelve international festival awards and broadcast distributions in more than 15 countries. She directed PBS/CPB special program Harbor from the Holocaust with music performed by Yo-Yo Ma.

She has directed, produced, and executive produced 13 documentaries. Her producing credits include Night of Night (2024), which premiered in competition at CPH:DOX; Dear Mother, I Meant to Write About Death (2022), which received a Special Mention at Busan International Film Festival; Singing in the Wilderness (2021), a nominee for the Golden Alexander Award at Thessaloniki International Film Festival; Confucian Dream (2019), winner of a Special Jury Award at Karlovy Vary International Festival and the Chinese Academy Award of Documentary Film; Mainland (2017), winner of a Special Jury Award at SXSW and PLEASE REMEMBER ME (2015), winner of three awards at GZDocs with a successful theatrical release and impact campaign in China that resulted in policy changes. The film was awarded DocImpactHi5 of 2019. 

Violet started her career as a co-producer on the critically acclaimed 2007 Sundance Special Jury winner Peabody and Emmy winner Nanking, which was distributed theatrically around 30 countries throughout the world, and was the highest-grossing documentary in China. Violet produces the forthcoming film Running With the Prime Minister. Violet has served as advisor for Sundance Non-Fiction Producing Lab, HotDocs Blue Ice Docs Fund and Chicken and Egg (Egg)ccelerated Lab. She is a consulting programmer for Shanghai International Film Festival. Born in Shanghai and based in New York, Violet holds a bachelor’s degree in journalism from Fudan University and received her MFA in journalism from the University of California at Berkeley.

Speaking History
Columbia University - Taught documentary filmmaking
School of Visual Arts - Taught documentary filmmaking

Other schools I've talked to: UC Berkeley, UCLA, Stanford, NYU, Cornell College, Hong Kong University, Oxford University, University of Iowa, University of Colorado, Rowan University and many more.

I've presented my films at UN High Commissioner for Human Rights, NCORE Educational Conference, International Documentary Association, Asia Society, China Institute, National Committee on US-China Relations. I have also been on NPR, ABCNews, iRadio, PBS to talk about my films. 

Expertise
I am an experienced educator, currently an adjunct professor at Columbia University, and I have also taught at the School of Visual Arts in New York. While many of my films explore subjects rooted in China, they resonate globally and often spark meaningful conversations with audiences unfamiliar with the country. Having spent the first half of my life in China and the second in the United States, I bring both an insider’s insight and an outsider’s perspective. In addition to being a documentary filmmaker, I remain a journalist at heart, dedicating hours each day to researching China-related issues. Through my talks, I aim to challenge stereotypes and build understanding, engaging with themes of gender, human relationships, and contemporary Chinese identity.